Adopting a Child: What to Expect After the Adoption Process

Congratulations on taking the brave and loving step to adopt a child! Whether you have just completed the adoption process or have been a parent for some time, you may be feeling overwhelmed, excited, and unsure of what to expect next. Adopting a child can be a life-changing experience and bring immense joy to your family, but it also comes with its own set of challenges. Whether you’ve adopted domestically or internationally, or whether you’ve gone through the foster care system, you’ve likely been through a long journey to get to this point. So now that the adoption is finalized, what comes next?  Here are some things to keep in mind as you navigate your new life as an adoptive parent.


Establishing a routine

Adopted children, especially those who have experienced trauma, need stability and predictability. Establishing a routine can help them feel secure and know what to expect each day. This includes setting a schedule for meals, bedtime, and activities.  Consistency and structure can also help ease any behavioral or emotional challenges that may arise.   (Check out the Hub Resources area for some templates of different routines to put into place!)

Bonding with your child

Bonding with your child can take time and may not happen overnight. Some children may struggle with attachment issues due to their previous experiences, and this can affect their ability to form a bond with their new parents. Be patient and understanding, and focus on building trust and providing a stable and loving environment for your child.  Building a strong bond with your child takes time and effort, but it’s essential for their emotional well-being. Spend time together, engage in activities that you both enjoy, and be affectionate and patient. Get to know your child!  The first few weeks and months are crucial for building a strong bond with your child. Take time to get to know your child’s interests, personality, and needs. Ask questions and listen carefully to their answers. Try to spend quality time with your child, whether it’s through reading, playing, or just hanging out.  (Check out an older blog post of ours: Moments of Connection)


Understanding your child’s needs

Every child is unique and may come with their own set of needs and challenges. Some children may have experienced trauma or abuse in their previous lives, which can affect their behavior and emotions. Be open to learning about your child’s needs and history, and seek support from a therapist or support group if needed. Supporting your child’s emotional and psychological well-being is vital.  Adopted children may experience a range of emotions, including grief, anger, and confusion. It’s important to provide them with the support they need to process their feelings. This may include therapy, support groups, or other resources.


Building a support system

Adopting a child can be a rollercoaster of emotions, and having a strong support system can make all the difference. Reach out to other adoptive families, attend support groups, and seek out resources to help you navigate the ups and downs of adoption. Raising a child, especially an adopted child, can be challenging. It’s important to build a support network of friends, family, and other adoptive parents who can offer guidance and support.  Joining a support group or connecting with other adoptive families can provide a valuable source of advice, comfort, and camaraderie. You can share your experiences, ask questions, and connect with people who understand what you’re going through.  If you or your child are struggling with the transition, don’t hesitate to seek professional help. An adoption therapist or counselor can help you work through any challenges that arise and provide support and guidance.


Embracing your new family

Adoption changes the dynamics of a family, and it can take time to adjust to the new roles and responsibilities. Encourage open communication, and work together as a team to create a positive and supportive environment for everyone involved.  As a family, celebrate milestones.  Adoption is a significant and life-changing event, and it’s important to take time to celebrate your milestones along the way. Whether it’s a first holiday together, a birthday, or simply reaching a new level of comfort and stability, take time to acknowledge and celebrate.


Celebrating your child’s heritage

Adoption provides a unique opportunity to learn about and embrace different cultures and traditions. Encourage your child to celebrate and embrace their heritage, and find ways to incorporate their culture into your family’s life. Depending on the circumstances of the adoption, your child may have a connection to their birth family or culture. Encouraging and supporting these connections can be an important part of your child’s healing and identity formation.



Navigating the legal and administrative aspects of adoption is daunting. Adoption can involve a number of legal and administrative tasks, such as updating birth certificates and passport information. Staying organized and being proactive can help ensure that everything is handled smoothly.


In conclusion, adopting a child can be a life-changing and rewarding experience, but it also comes with its own set of challenges. By being patient, understanding, and embracing your new family, you can build a strong and loving bond with your child and navigate the journey of adoption together.  The journey of adoption doesn’t end with the finalization of the adoption. There will be many challenges and joys ahead, but with patience, love, and support, you and your child can build a happy and fulfilling life together.  Remember to be patient, open-hearted, and kind to yourself and your child, and enjoy the journey.